I will admit that this whole realm of “motherdom” is new and exciting and terrifying and joyous….all at the same time. I have constant questions and a variety of possible answers. Reading, trying, revising, and trying again have become my new routine with my precious babe. Part of that involves some of you brilliant bloggers who have helped me with possible solutions to my latest conundrums or offered assurance that I am not alone.
Here’s my question. When it comes to parental requests in a daycare setting, what things should you let slide? Upon our first meeting, I was assured that my instructions would be followed and I felt very confident about the situation, albeit temporary as my permanent daycare provider recently had a baby. Lately, I’ve noticed little things that, I’ll admit, irk me and I don’t know if it’s a battle worth fighting or not.
What are the irksome things you ask? Well for starters, she is not using the bottles I’ve sent for her to use. I often get him home to find him in a different diaper than the brand I provide, and I found a different pacifier in the bassinet with him today when I picked him up, while his was sitting on the counter. Another this, but one that I don’t feel is a huge issure, is the fact that he is pretty filthy each day when I pick him up. I know that babies spit up, poop (in case you’ve forgotten), drool, and learn cool habits like buzzing their lips while you’re trying to feed them peas. But to still have a crusty nose or carrots and cereal on his face 8 or 9 hours later seems weird. If I know that we’re going anywhere immediately after I pick him up, I dress him in “comfy cozies” and plan to put him in his “spiffy” clothes when I pick him up.
Are any of these things, concerns that you would bring up with your provider? I think my hesitation with this is the fact that we’re only going to be with this provider for another 6-8 weeks and our permanent provider has a parenting style that more closely matches mine.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not questioning her ability to care for my child, or questioning that his needs (physical, mental, emotional and so forth) are being met. I think the underlying issue for me, is the constant question of what other requests are being ignored?
I’ve got my own thoughts about this, but would love to hear from some of you. To those of you who simply read, please come out of hiding and leave a comment!